Dying son’s wish realised with hospice

Sandi Adams cuts the ribbon at the Butterfly Hospice on Monday. DJ
Sandi Adams cuts the ribbon at the Butterfly Hospice on Monday. DJ

The dying wish of a Skegness man has been fulfilled after his mum opened a hospice closer to home.

Sandi Adams lost her son Nick to kidney cancer at the age of 24 in 2007.

Last week she officially cut the ribbon to open the Butterfly Hospice in Rowan Way, Boston, where it was announced it would be receiving its first inpatient next week.

She said: “I have been involved for seven years, originally because we lost our son and we wanted to give something back to the community. Today is a beginning and an ending - beginning as we go into the next phase and an ending because it ends what was a dream and becomes a reality.

“Today is about everybody that’s been involved - how fantastic they did that they kept that passion alive for so long.

“With hindsight, I think this was my grieving process.”

The New Look store manager and regional training manager has raised more than £70,000 from the fashion chain’s 22 stores across the county - with more than £12,000 raised so far this year.

She said: “It’s like winning the Lottery, it’s the nearest I can imagine to it. It’s about the difference it will make to people’s lives.”

A room at the Butterfly Hospice has been dedicated to Nick and has his name on A plaque above the door.

Sandi said Nick made her promise to open a local hospice after his experience while suffering with cancer.

He was originally able to stay at St Barnabas Hospice, Lincoln, a 90-mile round trip, but after he started to recover he became ill again and this time was unable to secure a hospice bed.

Mrs Adams described how he stayed on the seventh floor of Pilgrim Hospital, unable to travel any distance when ‘all he wanted was some fresh air’.

She said: “He asked why they didn’t have a hospice in this area.”

She said this inspired him to ask her to help get a hospice open locally, knowing she would take him up on the request.

She said: “It’s not just for patients either, it’s also for families. Nick’s dad used to fall asleep in the chair next to his bed. He camped with him wherever he went.

“I’ve witnessed people who have small children and they were trying to juggle home life, with everything else and the pressure and cost is immense.”

She said she was ‘very proud’ to cut the ribbon to open the hospice, adding: “Looking around today, at all the people in the community involved, it was massively special to be asked to do it.”

She now plans to continue fundraising towards the ongoing costs of the hospice and the next two build phases.